Change can be uncomfortable sometimes, especially when it’s us that is doing the changing. Learning to accept a new version of yourself, with natural hair, is a challenge to some people. I know I’ve personally had my fair share of struggles along my loc journeys. So if you are feeling down about your loc journey, I promise by the end of this post you will have a new perspective that will help you love yourself.
What’s The Problem?
Are you unhappy to be nappy?
Do you feel that your natural hair is unattractive or unacceptable?
Do you have the “ugly stage” blues?
If you said yes to any of the 3 questions above then listen up…
Who Taught You To Hate Yourself?
As Malcolm X once said, “Oh, I say and I say it again, ya been had! Ya been took! Ya been hoodwinked! Bamboozled! Led astray! Run amok! This is what He does….“
Malcolm in a separate but equally powerful speech: “Who taught you to hate the texture of your hair? Who taught you to hate the color of your skin? Who taught you to hate the shape of your nose and the shape of your lips? Who taught you to hate yourself from the top of your head to the soles of your feet? Who taught you to hate your own kind? Who taught you to hate the race that you belong to so much so that you don’t want to be around each other? No… Before you come asking Mr. Muhammad does he teach hate, you should ask yourself who taught you to hate being what God made you.” (Malcolm X – May 22, 1962, Los Angeles)
You weren’t born automatically thinking that your natural state deserved to be in a “less than” category. You were taught it at one point in time or another.
You could have learned this negative self image from early childhood experiences, occupational experiences, institutional racism, and the list goes on. There was a particular time when you decided “my natural hair is unacceptable”.
This is where we need some perception correction. It is 100% acceptable to be completely in love with yourself and who you are. If you won’t love yourself then who will? Having a negative perception on your natural black hair can seriously impact your journey, especially with locs. Growing hair is an extremely slow process, especially if you’re looking in the mirror everyday. So if you don’t like what you see, you are literally abusing yourself every single day.
Why do that? Why not learn to accept yourself? Why not learn to accept your DNA and the way that you were born?
Be Happy To Be Nappy. Love Yourself.
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